Showing posts with label kids. Show all posts
Showing posts with label kids. Show all posts

Saturday, February 9, 2008

Give, Save, Spend

Becky and I have recently started to teach Nathan (age 4) and Elise (age 2) about money. Of course I mean Biblical wisdom regarding the wise stewardship of this God-given ramsey_jrresource, and also practical money-handling advice, like that offered by Dave Ramsey's Financial Peace, Jr.

Today was really the first time we brought Elise in on the teaching. I think she understands the most important part. Let's see if you agree... But first, I need to tell you about the our Three Envelope System.

1.) We are teaching the kids that all money comes form God and it ultimately belongs to him. So the first thing we do with any money is give some back to him. This goes into the Ramsey-provided "Give" envelope.

2.) The next envelope that we need to put a chunk of the money God gives us is "Save." At first we told the kids this could be for Big Ticket Item toys they want, but on second thought that is not really what I want them to learn about savings. So we have since said this is for "a car, or college, or something big we need in an emergency."

3.) Third chronologically (and I hope eventually the kids see that its chronology determines the priority) is the "Spend" envelope. We allow each child almost total freedom to decide how to spend this. Right now, from Christmas money, and helping me with mailings I do for work, each child has about $30.00 in "Spend".

The first time they got a big chunk of money, I started to explain the importance of the "first fruits" idea. And, being the Bible-steeped guy I am, I dutifully shared with the little ones that we thus needed to pull out 10%. But Becky then had a great idea. Since the dollar amount they typically get is small, and in whole dollars, the calculation of 10% looks small to Nathan and Elise's little eyes, that really see nickels as more important than dimes, because they are bigger (and dollar bills are not as exciting to them as are any coin, because somehow they don't see value in the paper as much as the metal. Maybe all the talk of investing in Gold is initiated by toddlers...?) I digress. Becky's great idea was to, each time a child gets any money, split up their total into the three envelopes in this way:

  • 25% to "Give"
  • 25% to "Save"
  • 50% to "Spend"

Not only is this easier to show the kids where the money is going, it helps to underscore the point of priority. I pray they might, as long as possible, continue to live on a budget close to this...

So today we really got Elise started on this system for the first time. After I split up her dollars and coins into three envelopes, and after praying with her about where to give, what to save for, and how to spend it, we shared a need for a young boy at our church. There is a family whose three children all have varying degrees of a disease and they have financial needs the church is taking a collection for this Sunday. I barely got through the first sentence or two of explaining this and Elise announced:

"I will give all this to him!" as she pushed her Give envelope toward me. Inside was over $7.00. So at her very first opportunity to freely give, she made a gift worth 25% of her net worth.

Given that I myself am called to help others excel in the grace of giving, and to encourage generosity, it is hard to put into words the sense of pride and excitement I had at seeing her joy as she responded to the need. TGBTG!

Saturday, January 5, 2008

Dinosaur and Cookie Generosity

Former readers will affirm that generally this blog concerns itself with 1) encouraging generosity, and 2) chronicling cute things my kids say and do... and infrequently both at the same time.

Today, however, I am proud and joyful as I share a lesson the kids learned last night about being generous:

Background: As we departed for a recent car-trip vacation, each child got to pick one thing to take on the trip for a The object of ill-advised affectionbedtime buddy. Nathan choose a stuffed T-Rex and Elise choose, her Special Little Blankey. At one point late in the trip, Elise says to Nathan: "Can I please have your special dinosaur?"

Nathan: "No, honey."

Elise: "Pleeeease?"

-- Now at this point, I turned around and noticed Nathan was not even using the dino, so I said: "Nathan, I want to tell you something. You do not have to give your dinosaur to Elise... but I think it would be very generous if you would give it to her."

Nathan: "So you said 'I don't have to' so that mean it's okay if I don't give it to her."

Daddy: "You don't have to, but I want you to do it. Please do it for me, as a favor?"

Elise: "Pleeeeeeaasssse, Nay thin?!"

Nathan: (gripping the stuffed dino more tightly now) "No."

-- About this time we arrived at a restaurant and a rare thing happened: I had a rare moment of pure clarity and faith as I prayed God, while we are seated at dinner, please provide a remarkable opportunity to teach about generosity. The Lord answered that prayer...

Each of their meals came with an adult-sized chocolate chip cookie. God showed me this was the moment. I started to review what happened with the dino, and to help him understand that generosity is a good thing precisely because we "do not have to" give. Its the freedom of it that mirrors Christ's wonderful work of dying on the cross for our sins. I must say, to the Holy Spirit's credit, I was eloquent.

I began to come to my point, saying: "...Like that chocolate cookie you have there, I know you really want it. And you do not have to share it with anybody, but--"

Nathan then astounded me. He took his cookie, tore it right in half, and handed me one half. This is huge because if there is one thing that consistently causes him to have a total melt down it is even the suggestion that you want to share his dessert at any meal.

The real icing on the cake came later, when Elise, following suit, gave Becky her very last chip-filled bite of her cookie. Seeing this Nathan said "Good job, honey!"

Since this, Nathan has been very willing to be generous with his T-Rex, as seen below.

Now more generous

Tuesday, December 18, 2007

Quote Board #1

From time to time I will share one of the priceless quotes spoken by the little people in my home. (Just to keep this blog fresh, since quotes take almost no time to post and literally no time to dream up since someone else is saying them.)

Context: Nathan (my 4-yr. old son) was describing a field trip he recently went on...

  • Nathan: ".. and I got to touch a lobster, and he had rubber bands on him so he could not pinch us."
  • Dad: "What did he feel like?"
  • Nathan: "Like any lobster."

Author's note: this was definitely the first time Nathan had ever touched a lobster or any crustacean for that matter.

Sunday, October 28, 2007

Grand Rapids 2

We stayed at the Khardomah Lodge in Grand Haven, Michigan. Our room the Matser Suite was as big our house! Becky and the kids had a blast: walked to the (cold, but who cares?) beach... rode the trolly into town... and just enjoyed the Fall colors.

Tuesday, October 23, 2007

Drive to Grand Rapids

My family and I are driving northward to Grand Rapids, Michigan. I'll spend the days visiting with supporters of Wycliffe--encouraging their generousity--while Becky and the kids enjoy the fall colors and the beach.

This is pretty cool: I'm blogging this while Bec drives up I-69. An aircard and a laptop make it easy to record not-so-important thoughts at 72 mph. Meanwhile, the Microsoft Streets and Trips, with GPS, keeps us on track. But I know that one day, maybe quite soon, the technology will either be useless or meaningless... more

As of 11:38 PM we are at mile marker 8 just north of the Indiana line...

Bored by this post? Me too. But consider it a warm-up for what I hope will include photos tomorrow...